Are You Talking to a Bot?
You have a match. The profile looks... perfect. The photos are polished (maybe a little too polished?), and the bio is eloquent: “A lover of weekend hikes, a fan of noir cinema, and a home chef looking for someone to explore the flavors of life with.”
You start chatting. The replies are instant, witty, perfectly calibrated. But something feels off. Something is... too perfect. It is missing that human messiness, that tiny imperfection, that little typo. And you start to wonder: “Am I even talking to a real person?”
This is the new and unsettling era of online dating. This is no longer just catfishing. This is “bot-fishing”: profiles and conversations generated entirely by artificial intelligence.
How “Bad AI” Destroys Trust
Scammers and “eternal seekers” (we wrote about them in another article) love AI. For them, it is the perfect tool. Why spend an hour building a believable fake profile when you can type a single prompt into ChatGPT: “Write me a dating app bio for a 30-year-old man who seems sensitive but also likes sports”? AI produces the perfect generic text in seconds.
Worse still, bots can now carry entire conversations for them. They keep you emotionally engaged for a week, feeding on your attention, while the person - or criminal group - on the other side does not even read your messages. This is the ultimate form of deception. It is no longer just filter versus reality like it was with photos. It is “mask versus emptiness”.
Set and Love is a platform built on AI, yet this reality disgusts us.
Our Method Against “Shallow AI”
How do you fight bots pretending to be human? You ask questions that only a human being can answer. “Shallow AI” - the kind used by scammers - is brilliant at generating generic clichés. “I love travel.” “I value honesty.” “I enjoy wine and a good movie.” Our Love Assistant does not ask you about clichés. It asks about your core in a 100-question interview. And a bot has no core.
100% Humans, 0% Bots
Our interview is not just a filter for players and scammers. Above all, it is an advanced Turing Test for the world of dating.
Scammers and bots want scale and speed. We require time and reflection. That means every person you meet in a “private room” is a real human being who - just like you - completed the 100-question interview and shared something real about themselves.
You stop asking yourself, “Am I talking to a bot?” and start focusing on the only question that truly matters: “Is this the right person for me?”
